Our Love Story

Some love stories begin with a grand moment. Ours began quietly — through family, friendship, and a conversation no one knew would matter so much later.

Long before we truly knew each other, our families were already connected. Ronald had heard about Roos through his father, who remained good friends with Roos’s father, Edward, after his time in the Netherlands. But hearing about someone and truly meeting them are very different things.

The first direct interaction happened sometime in late 2023, during a brief WhatsApp video call. Roos was speaking with Ronald’s sister about plans to visit Ghana, and Ronald happened to be nearby. It was only a short exchange, simple and casual, with no sign yet that this brief moment would one day become the beginning of something life-changing.

Then came June 2024.

Roos and her mother arrived in Ghana, and Ronald went with his sister to the airport to receive them. For Roos, the excitement of finally seeing Nienke after ten years of friendship filled those first moments. For Ronald, it was the first time seeing Roos in real life — and his first thought was immediate and honest: she looked much younger than expected, small, cheerful, and remarkably cute.

Roos’s first impression of Ronald was equally immediate: cheerful, friendly, and confidently dressed in a beautiful African shirt that she instantly admired. On the drive from the airport, she sat beside him while he drove and quietly noticed something she would remember later — she felt safe with him.

What followed was a journey through Ghana that slowly became more than sightseeing. They traveled together, visited places, shared conversations, laughed, and gradually moved from being connected through family to becoming genuine friends.

For Roos, Ghana itself was full of surprises: seeing people effortlessly balancing loads on their heads, discovering that palm trees and coconut trees were not the same, hearing heartfelt singing in the Kingdom Hall unlike anything she was used to at home, and tasting fresh coconut in the heat for the first time. Somewhere along the way she also discovered a new favorite meal: Banku with groundnut soup — a meal she would never forget.

For Ronald, something else quietly stood out: Roos’s mind. He noticed how intelligent she was, how thoughtful her observations were, and how naturally interesting every conversation became. Her intelligence first drew him in deeply as a friend.

Then one day, on an ordinary meeting day, something shifted.

Roos had gotten ready earlier and was already outside when Ronald came out to leave. In that simple moment, he suddenly saw her differently. She looked beautiful — strikingly beautiful — and for the first time a thought crossed his mind that he had not seriously entertained before: perhaps there could be something more here.

He dismissed it quickly. The distance between Ghana and the Netherlands felt too large, and he assumed perhaps she would not think in that direction at all.

But some thoughts do not disappear once they begin.

For Roos, the realization came when Ronald had to leave halfway through part of the Ghana trip. His absence hit harder than she expected. She became unusually quiet, and during the drive to Kumasi she fought back tears because she already missed him deeply.

After Ghana, distance became their daily reality — but also the place where love quietly deepened.

Messages became daily. Then frequent. Then constant.

They texted every day, often many times a day, making jokes, sharing thoughts, and discovering that conversations never seemed to run out. Roos found herself waking up eager to check whether Ronald had written — unusual even by her own standards, because mornings normally belonged to staying comfortably in bed.

Their conversations grew deeper too. They spoke not only about ordinary life but about important things: future goals, where they might live, whether they wanted children, how many children, and what kind of life they hoped to build. What Ronald especially appreciated was that Roos never pushed her own wishes above his; she listened carefully, weighing both hearts equally.

Over time, admiration became certainty.

Ronald saw qualities that mattered deeply to him: her spiritual focus, her humility, her kindness, her love for people, her hardworking nature, and her sincere care for others. Even with different cultures and different upbringings, he kept seeing more reasons why she felt right.

What also became clearer to Roos over time was Ronald’s way of being: he was always eager to listen, never took himself too seriously, and had a natural warmth that made conversation easy. She admired how spiritually minded he was, how intelligent he was in conversation, and especially how naturally he put Jehovah first whenever speaking about the future.

Distance, however, remained difficult.

Video calls helped, but they could never fully replace presence. You could see a face, hear a voice, but not everything else — not the natural gestures, the small silences, the comfort of simply being nearby. There were difficult days when one wished to offer comfort through nothing more than a hand held or a quiet embrace, yet miles made that impossible. Poor internet connections sometimes turned simple conversations into repeated sentences and laughter mixed with frustration.

Still, the waiting taught patience.

And every reunion made the waiting worth it.

When Roos returned to Ghana in January 2025 with her father for Ronald’s brother’s wedding, the relationship had already begun. This time they were not simply two friends traveling together — they were a couple, intentionally observing each other more closely, learning who the other person truly was in daily life.

Later that year, Ronald visited the Netherlands. For him, that visit mattered deeply because he wanted to see Roos in her own world: among her family, her friends, her congregation, her childhood memories, and the people who had shaped her life. Finally, all the names he had heard for months had faces.

He saw her there exactly as he had hoped: natural, kind, deeply loved by those around her, and entirely herself.

And somewhere during that visit, he knew he was no longer simply in love — he was ready to promise his life.

Almost two years after friendship first sparked quietly in Ghana, they stood ready to promise lifetime loyalty to one another and begin their life together in their service to Jehovah. ❤️✨